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MeetMarcHeyisonandJaneDavisMarcMyworldchangedforeverin1992whenmyMomwasdiagnosedwithbreastcancer.Mymotherremainscancerfreetodayandhercourageisstilltheinspirationinmybecominganadvocateonthecriticalandvitalroleofmalecaregivingnotonlyforthewomenwelovewithbreastcancerbutforanywomenthatwelove.Thisbookisdesignedtobeablueprintandguidebecausenoonecangiveyoutheanswersaseverysituationandeveryfamilyhasitsowndynamicsandrhythm.Whatmustbeestablishedisaconnectionsothatthepatientknowsthatherpartnerwillbesidebysidewithhereverystepoftheway.Oncethatfoundationissetthenopenandhonestcommunicationwillhelpthepatientimproveherqualityoflifebecausesheknowsherpartneristherewithher.WhatIhopetoaccomplishistolayoutwayswhichwecancopewithwhateverlifethrowsourway.Thisbookisnottheholygrailthereisnoneinmyopinionbutatooltogetyouactiveandseeyoudohavethepowerwith-inyoutobeagreatcaregiver.Moreoverthisisourresponsibilitytostepuptotheplateandbethereforthewomenwelove.ThisbookshareswithyouwhatIhavelearnedfrommenallacrossourcountryitsnotmystoryandwhattheyhaveexperiencedandhowtheyhavetackledthisrole.NobodyraisestheirhandandsayscanIhavealifethreateningdiseasesoweasmendonotsaygeecanIhelpnowesaywhatdoyouwantmetodoandwhendoyouwantmetodoit.Amongthethingsyouwilllearnishowtoputastrongcaregivingteaminplacewhymenaregreatcaregiversmenandwomendocommunicatedifferentlyandhowcommunicationisatwowaystreet.Thisisanononsensestraighttalkbookonwhatittakestobeacaregivermeanttoequipyouwithastrongfoundationtocondentlybeamoreeffectiveandsupportivecaregiver.JaneMotheroftwogrownchildrengrandmothertofour.Ihavebeenmarriedforover36yearstoanowretiredArmyColonel.IamanurseavolunteerandacaregivertomyspousewithtwoillnessesParkinsonsandLymphoma.In2001wheremybookbeginsIvolunteeredwiththeAmericanRedCrossasaDisasterHealthNurseandtraveledtoNYCtoofferFirstAidtotherecoveryworkersatGroundZeroafterSeptember11th.ThebooktakesyouthroughmyexperiencesandfeelingswhilebeinginNYCfor612weeks.Itwasachallengingyetrewardingperiodoftimeinmylife.But911didnotendformostofus.Wemovedthroughitbutwillneverforget.Thebookcontinuesuntil2011andIsharewithyoutheupsanddownsmylifehadtooffer.Fromtheillnessofmymothertheheartbreakofworkingwithanegotisticalbosstothetwodiagnosisofmyspouse...lifechallengedme.Thereisaconstantthreadthroughthebook...stayingpositivewhengoingthroughdifculttimes.IjokesayingofcourseIneedtobepositive.IhavenochoiceasmybloodtypeisBWhatinspiredyoutowriteyourbookMarcBeinganadvocateforbreastcancersince1992whenmyMomwasdiagnosedIhavebecomepersonallypassionatewithadeepsenseofpurposetodowhatIcantohelpmenbethereforthewomentheylovewhenbreastcancerstrikes.Inhonorandinloveofmymomwhowilla22yearsurvivornextAprilIfoundedMenAgainstBreastCancerthenationsrstandonlynationalnon-protwhosemissionistoeducateandempowermentobeeffectivecaregiverswhenbreastcancerstrikesafemalelovedone.Oneofmyroleshasbeentravelingthecountryspeakingtomenandtheirfamiliesabouttheimportantandvitalrolemenplayinhelpingthepatientandtheirfamilynavigatethecrisisofbreastcancer.ItisinmytravelsandhavingthehonortomeettheseheroeswhoarestrugglingtosupportthewomentheylovetokeepmovingforwardthatIfeltIhadsomethingtohelpothers.BysharingwhatIhavelearnedonhearingwhathasworkedwhathasntworkedandhowmenandwomenarespectaculartogetherwhentheycommunicateinanopenandhonestmanner.Thisbookfocusesonreallifesituationsthatthesemenhavesharedthatwillhelpanymanifheisopentothehelp.JaneTheinspirationtowritemybookcamefrommyon-linewritinginstructorin2008.IwastakingawritingclassHowtowriteyourlifestorywiththeideaofsharingmystorytomyfamily.SheapproachedmeafterIcompletedthecourseencouragingmetoconsiderwritingabookasmystorywasverycompelling.WhatIfoundwasthatwritingthisstorywasverycatharticformeithelpedmehealemotionally.37WWW.FLIPMAGAZINE.NET