Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 Page 6 Page 7 Page 8 Page 9 Page 10 Page 11 Page 12 Page 13 Page 14 Page 15 Page 16 Page 17 Page 18 Page 19 Page 20 Page 21 Page 22 Page 23 Page 24 Page 25 Page 26 Page 27 Page 28 Page 29 Page 30JRF holds a Bachelor of Arts in Linguistics with a minor in Psychology from Swarthmore College. She resides in LA with her boyfriend and two cats where she writes, acts, and educates WHHQDJHUV,QKHUIUHHWLPHVKHHQMR\V1HWÀ L[DQGFKLOOLQJJDP LQJDQGFUHDWLQJWHDFRQFRFWLRQV6KHLVDQH[SHUWDWDYRLGLQJ social media, alas, you cannot follow her anywhere. óóó͘¥½®Öæƒþ®Ä›͘ěã&›ÙçƒÙùϮϬϭϳ ϭϮ bring up with the ol’ therapist, but it would STILL be better for you and the other party if you did NOT say you were sorry. For example, “I’m sorry for making you wait.” Yes, you made the other person wait, and that sucks, es- pecially if you are perpetually late, but saying you are sorry doesn’t change that fact and could poten- tially put a bad color on the rest of your interaction. Heck, maybe you being late wasn’t even your fault so why should you take the blame. Why not sincerely say, “Thanks for waiting,” instead. You still acknowledge you weren’t on time, but as an added bonus, you make the other person feel good for being nice rather than acting like a downer DQGȽ [DWLQJRQ\RXUPLVVWHS:KHQ\RXDUHWHPSWHG to say ‘I’m sorry’ think if perhaps a ‘thank you’ would be more warranted. Without a doubt, I strongly support apologizing, politeness, and admitting/righting one’s wrongs. But with even greater earnest, I support communication WKDWLVSUHFLVHPHDQLQJIXODQGHȼ HFWLYH Bouncing about the e-sphere are an overabun- dance of articles accusing women of over-apologiz- LQJ:KLFKLVIXQQ\EHFDXVHWKHHȼ RUWEHFRPHVDQ apology for an apology. Women who apologize too much then feel bad for doing one more thing wrong. I propose something else. Instead of thinking, “It is wrong to say I’m sorry,” focus on communicating what you actually need, want, or feel and don’t feel shy about LW